In order to answer this question we first need to fully understand exactly what the term co-dependency refers to. There is some confusion about the term, and not without reason. The term is actually in the middle of a metamorphosis, i.e., the meaning of the term is changing.

Defining The Meaning Of The Term: Co-Dependence

Co-Dependency is a relatively new concept, it was only developed around ten years ago. The discovery of the condition of co-dependence resulted from the study of the family members of alcoholics. It originally described a family members dependence on the addictive behaviours of a alcoholic (or drug dependent) family member.

In recent times, however, the term has been expanded to describe a dysfunctional pattern of living and problem solving. It refers to dysfunctional behaviour that was learned and developed through watching and imitating other family members behaviour during childhood. Such dysfunctional behaviour can also be learned from family routines and rules. The term can also be applied to the behaviour of a person whose thoughts and actions revolve extensively around another person or even an object.

What Exactly Is Co-Dependency Counselling?

Co-Dependency counselling can be varied. This is due to the fact that it is a condition that is relatively new to the medical world. Therefore, there has not been sufficient time to develop consensus on treatments. There are, however, several traits that most co-dependency counselling treatments have in common.

There is much disagreement about treating co-dependence, and many doctors criticise the condition as being just a personality trait. It is therefore important that anyone seeking help find a good physiologist who is specialised in co-dependence treatment.

The first step in most counselling treatments should be to help the effected person grasp how exactly they are thinking and behaving. The client needs to separate and understand the abnormal behaviour and their unhealthy thought patterns. Once they are able to identify the unhealthy behaviour it is then possible to take solid steps towards correcting it.

A very common part of most co-dependency counselling is working on skills related to listing, communicating, and being assertive. A good councillor will be able to teach their client how to develop these skills in a way so as to combat their destructive behaviour, better cope with their feelings, and be able to relate better to others.

The co-dependent person usually needs to educate their family members. This is an essential part of therapy. A good councillor will guide them through this important process. The whole family will need to make important changes in order to see real progress. Any abuse or negative behaviour that is involved must stop! A good councillor will be able to help guide one through this complicated process.

If you, or a loved one, are suffering from this emotional disorder you should seriously consider finding a good councillor. Your family will thank you, and you will be amazed at the peace, serenity, and happiness that can result to you and your family!