When you first break up with someone, the pain can be overwhelming. It can be difficult to imagine your life without the other person in it. You may find yourself fluctuating between a wide range of emotions, feeling despondent and uninterested in life one minute and angry or upset the next.
No matter what you are feeling, it is important to acknowledge how difficult getting over a break up can be. Losing someone that you care about can have a significant impact on your emotional state. By acknowledging your feelings and being kind to yourself, you can minimize the amount of time that it will take for you to start feeling like yourself again.
Although you may be tempted to try to rush through the process of healing, it is important that you allow it to run its course. If you try to get over someone too quickly, you may wind up shoving your feelings down instead of dealing with them. This can eventually do more harm than good. The only way to truly recover is to go through the healing process rather than trying to skip over it altogether. These tips should help:
1. Acknowledge that the relationship is over.
One of the hardest parts of breaking up is accepting the fact that your relationship is actually over. If you are like a lot of people, you may be holding onto the hope that you and your ex might someday get back together.
Unfortunately, if there are no signs of the relationship getting back together then this hope can keep you from healing. In order to truly move on with your life, you need to come to terms with the fact that your relationship has ended and that it is time to take a different path. Only then can you begin looking toward the future instead of holding onto the past.
2. Allow yourself to grieve.
Usually, when you hear someone talk about the stages of grief, it is referring to the healing process that people go through after someone dies. As it turns out, however, the emotions that people experience when getting over a break up are surprisingly similar to those that they experience after someone dies.
It makes sense when you think about it. After all, in both cases, you have lost someone that you love (or used to love). That means that you will most likely experience many of the stages of grief as you go through the process of recovering from your breakup. At first, you may find yourself in denial, thinking that you and your ex have a chance of getting back together again.
Later, you may find yourself feeling angry or depressed. Eventually, after enough time passes, you will eventually come to accept your breakup. It is important to allow yourself to experience all of these stages of grief if you really want to recover. Don’t feel ashamed of your emotions. Instead, let yourself feel them, knowing that they are just temporary signposts along the way toward recovery.
3. Cut all ties with your ex.
Getting over someone is even harder if you have to see what they are up to every day. If you want to speed up the healing process, consider cutting ties with your ex.
Stop following them on social media so that you don’t have to keep seeing updates from their life. If you have to see the other person on a daily basis, be polite but don’t make an effort to hang out with them or to try to find out what they are up to. Instead, focus on yourself and what is happening in your life. Making a clean break with your ex can help you get over them more quickly. At some point, you may be able to be friends. Right after a breakup, however, it is usually best to keep contact to a minimum.
4. Take care of your health.
When you are feeling down, it is easy to get into the habit of neglecting yourself. You may find yourself eating junk food, staying up too late, and laying around on the couch. Unfortunately, none of these habits do much to help you feel better.
A much better option is to focus on your health. Start eating better foods and make sure that you get plenty of rest. Find some type of exercise that you enjoy and do it on a daily basis. That doesn’t necessarily mean going to the gym. For instance, you may find it extremely beneficial to take up hiking or to start taking walks in a nearby park where you can enjoy the outdoors.
5. Do things that you love.
A lot of times, when you are in a relationship, you may lose sight of who you really are and what you enjoy. When you are with someone else, the lines can become blurred between your interests and their interests. After a breakup, you have a chance to rediscover yourself. Spend time thinking about what really makes you happy. Consider trying out some new hobbies to see if you can find new interests. It can be vastly rewarding to rediscover who you are and what makes you tick.
Getting over a break up is far from easy. It can take a long time to heal after someone breaks your heart. As long as you are kind to yourself throughout the process, however, you will eventually come out the other side. These tips should help you go through the process in the most helpful way.